"I have found that if you love life, life will love you back."- Arthur Rubinstein
Have you ever thought, “if I just had more (fill in the blank), I’d be happier?” I know I have, and I would go ahead and say that most, if not all, people think this from time to time. But the truth is, lasting happiness and love don’t come from anything other than wanting and working for just that. You are responsible for loving yourself, your life, and those around you. No one can make that happen but you.
And yes, I know at times this can be very difficult. Life gets crazy and it can be easy to lose your way. I personally struggled with loving myself for many years, and it still creeps up on me here and there. What helps me in these moments is re-dedicating myself to and focusing on the 8 habits below. They may not be the same habits that make you feel calm, focused and centered, so I urge you to discover what yours are. Recognize, implement, and always return to them to love yourself and your life a little more.
1. Live in the Here and Now
The fact that you will never get this exact moment back should reinforce the importance and the gift of life. You cannot change the past, so do not dwell on it, and you cannot predict the future, so come back to now. Don’t let your past or worries about the future take away from the joys you have today. Focus on what you have now and fully embrace and enjoy it.
It’s amazing how, even on the days you would rather do anything but exercise, a quick 30 minute workout can change your mental state. When I’m feeling down, exercise picks me up tremendously. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “wow, I’m so glad I came today – I feel so much better.”
3. Do What Brings You Joy
This is your one and only life, so don’t waste time and energy on what you don’t enjoy. Make the conscious choice to do more of what makes you happy. When deciding on whether or not to do something, ask “will I regret not doing this?” If the answer is yes…do it!
4. Stop Trying to Please Others
This is a tough one for many, including myself. You will never make everyone else happy, but you should always make YOU happy. Your self-love and worth are not dependent on others’ opinions. Don’t sacrifice what makes you happy to make someone else happy.
5. Eliminate the Non-Essential Tasks
First, you must identify the “essential” – the things and tasks in life that are most important to you and that you love. When you eliminate everything else, you can focus your time and energy on what you care about, simplify your life, and build the life you want.
6. Be Kind and Grateful
Yes, these are habits that need to be practiced. We are surrounded by a world of negativity, so it can sometimes take a conscious effort to remain positive. This month, give a compliment to one person daily, whether it’s someone you know or a complete stranger. Notice how it makes you feel. At the end of every day, tell your loved one(s) one thing you are grateful for. These two small habits will make you feel good inside.
7. Celebrate Your Successes
It’s okay to give yourself a pat on the back here and there. I have always struggled with this, but when I allow myself to do it, it feels good. The more you recognize your achievements, the more motivated you will be to accomplish the goals you have set for yourself.
8. Establish a Routine
Routines = life for me. If I don’t have a routine, or a detailed plan to follow I enter crazy-town. A routine can be as simple as what you do every morning when you get up and every night before you go to bed. You can’t plan your entire day, so control the time frames you can. Establishing a solid and consistent routine gives you a great start to each day and mentally prepares you for the next day at night. It will help you become more productive and allow you to focus on what’s important and what you really want to accomplish for yourself. When you feel accomplished, you feel the love.
Posted on 03/02/2017 at 03:00 AM